Signs of Healthy Boundaries

• Appropriate trust
• Deciding whether a potential relationship will be good for you
• Weighing the consequences before acting on sexual impulse
• Revealing a little of yourself at a time, then checking to see how the other person responds to your sharing.
• Putting a new acquaintanceship on hold until you check for compatibility
• Moving step by step into intimacy
• Noticing when someone else displays inappropriate boundaries
• Noticing when someone invades your boundaries
• Respect for others - not taking advantage of someones generosity
• Trusting your own decisions
• Defining your truth, as you see it
• Self-respect - not giving too much in hope that someone will like you
• Knowing who you are and what you want
• Recognizing that friends and partners are not mind readers
• Clearly communicating your wants and needs (and recognizing that you may be turned down, but you can ask)