I AM STRONG
Because I know my weakness
I AM BEAUTIFUL
Because I see my flaws
I AM A LOVER
Because I have felt hate
I AM FEARLESS
Because I have been afraid
I AM WISE
Because I have been foolish
AND I CAN LAUGH
Because I have known sadness.
Monday, February 21, 2011
Living with Purpose Now....a worksheet
This is a worksheet that will help you live more purposefully. It is imperative that as you answer the questions below and that you do NOT censor yourself or hold back on writing down any goal, dream, or wish.
This worksheet is not designed to become a 'to do' list for you, nor are you obligated to fulfill anything you list here. The purpose of this worksheet is for you to capture a better view of all that is interesting to you (and possible for you) to experience or have in your lifetime. ...so give yourself time to dream!
Keep your answers close to you as they will remind and motivate you toward what is most important to you this year.
This worksheet is not designed to become a 'to do' list for you, nor are you obligated to fulfill anything you list here. The purpose of this worksheet is for you to capture a better view of all that is interesting to you (and possible for you) to experience or have in your lifetime. ...so give yourself time to dream!
- 5 Things I value right now (i.e. communicty, honesty, justice, time with family, personal organization, etc).
- 5 Things I need most to improve my life today:
- At home I need:
- At work I need:
- From myself I need:
- For my health I need:
- 5 important things I can accomplish in the next 12 months.
- 5 Places I would love to see or visit within the next 3 years.
- 10 Things I am most proud of about myself and/or my life to date.
- The types of people I feel my best around and would do well to surround myself with.
- What matters most to me in my life. (Do not leave blank, if you are not a 100% sure, write down what you think it might be.
- The top 5 behaviors, traits, or qualities I will leave this world being known for in my lifetime.
- 5 mportant decisions I am ready to make about myself and/or my life right now, today! (Be very specific)
- This year, how you rank the following in order of priority:
- Friends/Community
- Health, well-being and peace of mind
- Spirtual connected-ness and/or religious faith
- Family
- Professional Career.
Keep your answers close to you as they will remind and motivate you toward what is most important to you this year.
Living Purposefully
1. Taking responsibility for formulating one's goals and purposes consciously.
2. Being concerned to identify the actions necessary to achieve one's goals.
3. Monitoring behavior to check that it is in alignment with one's goals.
4. Paying attention to the outcomes of one's actions, to know whether they are leading where one wants to go.
....check out Living with Purpose Now......a Worksheet.
2. Being concerned to identify the actions necessary to achieve one's goals.
3. Monitoring behavior to check that it is in alignment with one's goals.
4. Paying attention to the outcomes of one's actions, to know whether they are leading where one wants to go.
....check out Living with Purpose Now......a Worksheet.
Don't Quit
I've always loved this poem, so I am passing it on. :)
When things go wrong. as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low, and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
when he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worst, that
YOU MUST NOT QUIT!!!
-C.W. Longenecker
When things go wrong. as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low, and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
when he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worst, that
YOU MUST NOT QUIT!!!
-C.W. Longenecker
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Stuck finding a solution to a problem that should be changed?
As yourself the following questions:
A. What is keeping me from solving this problem?
B. What is keeping me from taking any of the possible actions available to me to solve this problem?
C. How do I feel about choosing an action with an outcome of which I am uncertain?
a. What is it about which I am uncertain?
b. What is the worst possible thing that could happen if:
I take the action needed?
I do not take the action needed?
D. What are the blocks and barriers in me, keeping me from taking this "uncertain" action about which I am unsure?
a. What are the possible consequences of ignoring this problem?
b. What are the possible consequences of not taking the risks necessary?
c. What do I need right now to take the risks necessary?
d. What do I need in order to live with myself in case the action I take results in an even more negative situation than I currently have?
**If you find you are still unable to take risk, brainstorm the following:
Alternative, more appealing solutions to the ones you have already identified
Alternative, consequences to not solving the problem
Reasons for not taking a risk over this issue
What would your life be like if you refused to take a risk on this issue?
** Still not sure what to do? Try this...
Visualize a successful solution to the problem in which you not only took a risk but were also a winner.
Keep this visualization active in your mind for a 20 minute meditation period while you rest in a relaxed state. Do this 3 times a day until you feel strong enough to take the risk
A. What is keeping me from solving this problem?
B. What is keeping me from taking any of the possible actions available to me to solve this problem?
C. How do I feel about choosing an action with an outcome of which I am uncertain?
a. What is it about which I am uncertain?
b. What is the worst possible thing that could happen if:
I take the action needed?
I do not take the action needed?
D. What are the blocks and barriers in me, keeping me from taking this "uncertain" action about which I am unsure?
a. What are the possible consequences of ignoring this problem?
b. What are the possible consequences of not taking the risks necessary?
c. What do I need right now to take the risks necessary?
d. What do I need in order to live with myself in case the action I take results in an even more negative situation than I currently have?
**If you find you are still unable to take risk, brainstorm the following:
Alternative, more appealing solutions to the ones you have already identified
Alternative, consequences to not solving the problem
Reasons for not taking a risk over this issue
What would your life be like if you refused to take a risk on this issue?
** Still not sure what to do? Try this...
Visualize a successful solution to the problem in which you not only took a risk but were also a winner.
Keep this visualization active in your mind for a 20 minute meditation period while you rest in a relaxed state. Do this 3 times a day until you feel strong enough to take the risk
Consequences of NOT taking Risk
The problem or complaint going unresolved
Change being avoided
Maintenance of the status quo, even if its negative
Others turning off to your complaints and pleas for help
No gains in life C stagnation
Over-dependence on others to take care of you
Unhappiness concerning your current status in life
Depression over your problems
Feelings of being stuck C immobilized
A chronic "yes, Y but" attitude
Lack of creativity in problem solving
The problems becoming exacerbated
Your rights and the rights of others being ignored
Experiencing "burnout" in facing your problems
Loss of support from others who have been assisting you in working on your problems.
Loss of physical health
Loss of emotional health
Being isolated and ignored by others as you wallow in self-pity
Your blaming others for not helping to solve your problems
Your self-destructive, self medicating, or self-defeating behavior.
Change being avoided
Maintenance of the status quo, even if its negative
Others turning off to your complaints and pleas for help
No gains in life C stagnation
Over-dependence on others to take care of you
Unhappiness concerning your current status in life
Depression over your problems
Feelings of being stuck C immobilized
A chronic "yes, Y but" attitude
Lack of creativity in problem solving
The problems becoming exacerbated
Your rights and the rights of others being ignored
Experiencing "burnout" in facing your problems
Loss of support from others who have been assisting you in working on your problems.
Loss of physical health
Loss of emotional health
Being isolated and ignored by others as you wallow in self-pity
Your blaming others for not helping to solve your problems
Your self-destructive, self medicating, or self-defeating behavior.
Road Blocks to becoming a risk taker
Fear of rejection
Need for approval
Need to avoid guilt
Need to always be right
Need to know all the "ins" and outs" of a situation
Need for certainty
Lack of belief in yourself and others
Fear of being incompetent
Desire to avoid conflict
Unresolved anger
Poor role modeling in family of origin
Fear of failure
Unwillingness to face problems honestly
Lack of assertiveness in protection of your own rights
Inability to take the responsiblity for your own life
Unwillingness to accept possible negative consequences
Preferring to be unhappy, mired in your problem
Playing it safe
A need for security
Fear of hurting others
Rationalizing the lack of need for direct action
Denial that a problem exists, and action needs to be taken
Projecting the need for action onto others
Intellectualizing about a problem to avoid action
Exempting yourself of responsibility to resolve your problems
Alcohol or drug abuse "clouding" thinking
Over emotional response to a problem
Humoring yourself and others to ignore the problem
Over concern for everybody but yourself
Fear of pain (no pain, no gain)
Absence of desire to change
Irrational belief that it is impossible to change the situation
A disregard for the rights of yourself and others
Confusion about your role in handling the problem
Lack of ownership of the problem
Over-sentimentality for the needs of others
Enjoying the sympathy you receive from others for the problem you face
Inablility to let go of an old belief in a person or institution
A belief that life should always be fair
Need for approval
Need to avoid guilt
Need to always be right
Need to know all the "ins" and outs" of a situation
Need for certainty
Lack of belief in yourself and others
Fear of being incompetent
Desire to avoid conflict
Unresolved anger
Poor role modeling in family of origin
Fear of failure
Unwillingness to face problems honestly
Lack of assertiveness in protection of your own rights
Inability to take the responsiblity for your own life
Unwillingness to accept possible negative consequences
Preferring to be unhappy, mired in your problem
Playing it safe
A need for security
Fear of hurting others
Rationalizing the lack of need for direct action
Denial that a problem exists, and action needs to be taken
Projecting the need for action onto others
Intellectualizing about a problem to avoid action
Exempting yourself of responsibility to resolve your problems
Alcohol or drug abuse "clouding" thinking
Over emotional response to a problem
Humoring yourself and others to ignore the problem
Over concern for everybody but yourself
Fear of pain (no pain, no gain)
Absence of desire to change
Irrational belief that it is impossible to change the situation
A disregard for the rights of yourself and others
Confusion about your role in handling the problem
Lack of ownership of the problem
Over-sentimentality for the needs of others
Enjoying the sympathy you receive from others for the problem you face
Inablility to let go of an old belief in a person or institution
A belief that life should always be fair
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